HARD TO ACCESS

Have you ever had or currently have a loved one who is hard to connect with? It may seem like you tried everything possible to make a breakthrough, but to no avail.

As I read Mark 3:27, this thought popped into my mind. 

“No one can enter a strong man’s house and plunder his goods unless he first binds the strong man. And then he will plunder his house.”

You’re probably wondering, how can you think of that when the passage deals with something unrelated? 

Think about it this way: the strong man is the person you’re trying to connect with. His house is their heart. His goods are the connection. 

The method to plunder their goods is to bind them. Now, we know that we can’t physically bind someone, or we could get in trouble, but could we bind them, metaphorically speaking? 

Here are some steps to help us bind the strong man to plunder their goods.

1. Identify the goods. 

2. Gain access.

3. Take the opportunity.

4. Bind.

5. Plunder.

The first step is to identify what you want from the person. 

The second step is to gain access to them. How can you get them to open the door to their heart? Limited access is more than no access. Discover their interest.

Thirdly, you slowly push through when you gain the slightest bit of access. An open door is the opportunity to make your way in slowly. Making your way in is done by keeping their interest. 

Forth, you bind them! This is where you fully engage them. Once they are engaged, you finally plunder their goods. This is the level of connection. 

Having a breakthrough with someone you love isn’t impossible, but it is a process. The next time you find yourself unable to connect with someone you care about, remember to;

1. Identify the goods. 

2. Gain access.

3. Take the opportunity.

4. Bind.

5. Plunder.